Love is a verb: Is More Than Just Words
Have you listened to the song “Love is a verb” by John Mayer?
He said;
Love is a verb
It ain’t a thing
It’s not something you own
It’s not something you scream
When you show me love
I don’t need your words
Yeah love ain’t a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain’t a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain’t a crutch
It ain’t an excuse
No you can’t get through love
On just a pile of I-O-Us
Love ain’t a drug
Despite what you’ve heard
Yeah love ain’t a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain’t a thing
Love is a verb
So you gotta show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
That love is a verb
That’s why children trust and appreciate their parents after seeing all the sacrifices, kindness, Patience and the permanence on how they’ve been excluding these love on them.
During our first year of marriage, I often expressed my love and care for my husband through words. However, there were times when my actions didn’t align with what I said.
This frustrated him because he expected my behavior to always reflect my words. In turn, I would get upset, feeling as though he doubted my love for him. What I didn’t realize at the time was that love isn’t just about words—it’s about consistently showing it through actions.
It didn’t make sense until I read 1 Corinthians 13 five times. Then I understood that love isn’t reactive, it’s proactive.
This disconnect created tension between us until I learned that love is best understood when words and actions work together.
Few days after I got that understanding, I came across a written note about a man who made a powerful proactive choice every day.
Love is proactive not reactive
When he comes home from work, he sits in his car in the driveway and pushes his pause button. He literally put his life in pause to get perspective.
He thinks about the members of his family and what they are doing inside the walls of his house He considers what kind of environment and feeling he wants to help create when he goes inside.
He says to himself, My family is the most enjoyable, the most pleasant, the most important part of my life. I’m going to into my home and communicate my love for them.
When he walks through the door, instead of finding fault and becoming critical or simply going off by himself to relax and take care of his own needs he will dramatically shout I’m home! Please try to restrain yourself from hugging and kissing me.
Then he will go around the house and interact in positive ways with every family members. Kissing his wife, rolling around on the floor with the kids or doing whatever it takes to create pleasantness and happiness. Whether it’s taking out the garbage or helping with a project or just listening.
In doing these things, he rises above his fatigue, his challenges or setbacks at work, his tendencies to find fault or disappointed in what he may find at home.
Think about the proactive choice this man is making and the impact it has on his family. Think about the relationship he is building and how it will impact every dimension of family life for years perhaps for generations to come.
This isn’t applied to marriages or families alone. It can go well with friends and roommates.
Any successful relationship, marriage and family takes work. It’s not a matter of accident, it’s a matter of achievement.
It takes effort and sacrifice. It takes knowing that as long as you live – Love is a verb.
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