Gifts your children will never forget

I may not recall the lovely gifts my parents gave me, but when it comes to the most impactful childhood memories, I could talk about them endlessly. These are the experiences, lessons, and values that have stayed with me into adulthood.
One biblical figure I deeply admire is Daniel. His unwavering character and convictions, even in the face of temptation, inspire me.  I’m keenly reminded that parents need to sow into their children as Daniel’s parents did that is to raise children who will thrive in a toxic culture. It is that character and conviction that will preserve them in times of trouble.

What kind of gifts will leave a lasting impact and transform your child’s life forever?

Ongoing affection
It is often believed that a distant or unaffectionate father can lead boys to struggle with emotional expression and may cause girls to seek validation through sexual expression. Many girls who engage in promiscuous behavior usually have fathers who are either emotionally or physically absent. Growing up, I can’t remember my parents hugging me and I equally cannot recall them hugging, it’s not a part of them. I vividly remember visiting my cousin for the first time and watching her play, hug, and laugh with her children moved me to tears, wishing I could have experienced that kind of love. Now I understand how crucial it is to nurture affection in a child’s life, and I’ve decided to break that cycle. When I have children, I will hold their hands, hug them, and peck them often. If we don’t give our children the love and affection they need, they may seek it from the wrong places.

Encouraging word
Children learn by observing the world around them. Therefore, it’s essential to use positive language and offer encouraging words in their presence. Words are powerful, and when they are pointed and positive we remember them. Proverbs 12:18 says Thoughtless words cut like a sword. But the tongue of wise people brings healing. Some people bear emotional scars into adulthood from the hurtful words spoken to them. We have the opportunity to nurture our children in such a way that they are armed with emotional resilience which will equip them with the mental strength needed to face the world with confidence. Tell them how important they are to you and how much you believe in them. I grew up in a community where parents would insult and curse their children out of frustration, which has led many of those children to adopt a wayward lifestyle. The words you choose to speak today can either build confidence or destroy hope pushing your child further into despair. It is their character and conviction that will sustain them in times of trouble.

Serious fun
Growing up in an environment filled with fun, laughter, and play helps reduce a child’s anxiety, diminish their fears, and lessen feelings of hostility and anger. Proverbs 17:22 says A cheerful heart makes you healthy. But a broken spirit dries you up. Find ways to bring fun into your home, because when children don’t experience it there, they may look for it elsewhere—and it might not be the healthy fun you want them to have. Play board games, cook together, go hiking, watch movies, do a family workout, take pictures, etc.

Delicate discipline
One way we show love to our children is through discipline. It’s important to find a discipline method that effectively supports your child’s growth. Discipline isn’t about punishment; it’s about teaching your child positive habits that will serve them well in life’s challenges. Be the role model they can look up to. Children often imitate their parents, so demonstrating good habits can help them incorporate those behaviors into their lives. Establish clear rules and routines, such as brushing their teeth before bed or finishing homework before watching TV, and consistently follow through. If these rules aren’t followed, ensure your child understands the consequences. As a child, I remember playing with friends and sometimes staying out late, fully aware of the consequences I would face. I rarely saw my parents visiting friends late unless there was a special reason, and that set an example for me.

Activated responsibility
Responsibility must be taught and modeled. I remember once when I forgot to take my lunch to school, and the resulting hunger really affected my ability to concentrate. Since that day, I’ve made sure never to forget it again. Sometimes, parents need to let their children experience consequences to help them grow as long as the consequences aren’t harmful, allow your kids to experience the natural consequences of their behaviors. Understanding the connection between their actions and the outcomes is essential for healthy development.
One way my mom helped me transition from dependence to healthy independence was by teaching me to do chores. She would sometimes wake me up at 6 a.m. to clean up, do the dishes, and get ready before school. Through this, I learned discipline and responsibility. Your child can learn to be a person of integrity and reliability well before adulthood.

Faithfulness to your spouse
A marriage, where the love between spouses is evident and palpable, provides a foundation of security and stability for children. The day I hear my daughter say, “I love that you love Daddy,” will fill my heart with joy and bring me humbly before God, asking for His grace to continue loving my husband—the father of my children—with His boundless love. This is the greatest gift I can offer my children.
Faithfulness in marriage extends beyond physical commitment; it involves your eyes, heart, thoughts, emotions, and spirit. Guard your sexuality daily and devote it wholly to your spouse. Your children will undoubtedly notice this example and be shaped by it. The most precious gift we can give them is to love our spouse faithfully.

Consistent presence
Presence is not all about physically being around your children. Some might argue, “But I work from home.” Here’s the key question – are you truly present with your heart or just your body? The issue is not just physical presence but a perceived presence. I began living with my older sister when I was 10, and being away from my parents often left me feeling lonely, especially when I saw my nieces and nephews laughing and playing with their dads. I have fewer memories of those intimate moments—comforting words, playful activities, or shared routines with my parents. Unlike other kids, they may be around their parents but never get to spend that quality time with them.

Peaceful home
My husband and I are committed to creating a peaceful home, especially after studying children’s needs. We want our children to see our house as a sanctuary of tranquility. Why is peace so important? Because kids face daily battles—bullying, peer pressure, and issues related to body image. If our children know they can return to a safe and nurturing environment, it helps them cope with stress, comparisons, and negativity. On the other hand, a hostile atmosphere marked by constant arguments, an irresponsible father, a disengaged mother, or a chaotic home can drive a wedge between family members and diminish the sense of peace we aspire to create.

Continuous learning
Cultivating a passion for learning goes beyond merely studying for grades. Encourage your children by modeling a love for reading books on personal development, relationships, and spirituality. Many lessons I’ve learned about life didn’t come from my parents but from the books I read. Movies also offer valuable insights that can spark meaningful discussions. It’s important to help your children understand that every experience holds a lesson to be discovered.

Positive memories
Building memories is like earning an “A” in parenting because your children will carry those moments with them forever. I still remember the times my mom, my three sisters and I shared the same plate every Christmas. I can vividly recall the day I got lost on the farm, and my sister cried searching for me, even though I wasn’t far away. These and many others are the memories that stay with me. But ask yourself, what will your children remember most about you? Will it be the special moments, or will they only recall you yelling and fighting at their father? My point is that memories matter and good parents make intentional memories.

What other “gifts” can you provide your children that will stay with them for a lifetime? Share your thoughts in the comments section below!