Dear 20 something-Your life will unfold In the most beautiful way.

Dear 20 something,

Right now you may feel like life is a puzzle with missing pieces, full of uncertainties, and a million of questions about the future. You wonder if you are making the right choices, if you’ll ever feel like you’ve figured it out. but here’s the truth, Life is not about having all the answers, its about embracing the journey as it unfolds.

I know that the media, friends, family, and influencers constantly pressure you to conform to a predetermined lifestyle. The Society also sets expectations for you before you’ve even had the chance to figure out who you truly are.

You are expected to graduate from high school and immediately enroll in college/university, choose what to study so that you can finish within four years. Upon graduation, the expectation is to either pursue further education or land a stable job and jump straight into a career. At the same time, you should have found “the one,” be engaged, and be well on your way to marriage. Shortly after, the next steps are buying a home and starting a picture-perfect family, all within an unspoken yet rigid timeline.

But life isn’t that simple. The pressure to follow this scripted journey is not only overwhelming but also unrealistic. Everyone’s path is different, and trying to force your life into society’s rigid expectations can lead to unnecessary stress, doubt, and even feelings of failure when things don’t go according to plan. More importantly, this timeline is not necessarily what God has intended for you.

His plan is unique for every individual, and it doesn’t always align with societal norms. Instead of rushing to meet external expectations, Seek God’s guidance, trust His timing, and embrace the journey He has laid out for you no matter how different it may look from what the world expects.

 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.  In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. Jeremiah 29:11-13

You are already growing in ways you don’t even realize yet. Every challenge, every obsession, every small victory is shaping you into the person you are meant to be. Is it the setbacks? They are not signs of failure, they are stepping stones. How about the moment of doubt? They are proof you care deeply about the life you are building.

I know you are eager to find your purpose, your place in this world. But let me remind you; Purpose is not something you stumble upon in one day. It is something you discover piece by piece from the experience you face, God’s word and the passions you explore. Sometimes, God may direct you to different route but its okay to change paths, to grow out of friendships, to evolve in ways you never expected. That’s the beauty of life, it keeps unfolding from seasons to seasons, revealing new opportunities, dreams and a better version of yourself.

I will like to point out four secrete you should consider, they will help you finish the journey ahead strong.

1. Consistently nurture your relationship with Jesus/the Holy spirit. Wondering why this should be your top priority? Because in Him lies the wisdom to navigate life. Jesus isn’t just an escape route from hell; He is the way, the truth, and the life. By following His ways, you walk in righteousness, experience peace beyond understanding, and embrace the promise of eternal life. There is a reason why the Bible urges us to remember our Creator in the days of our youth (Ecclesiastes12-1, because in him lies the foundation to a meaningful life and to avoid regret of wasted life. I understand that this is a season of exploration, however, not every trial-and-error decision comes with light consequences. Some choices, though made in the spirit of adventure or curiosity, can leave lasting effects on your life. That’s why the Holy Spirit and your Bible have all the wisdom you need to guide your steps. Lean onto them, and let them shape your journey.
2. Invest in quality relationships. I recently read about a study that found that the higher your best friend’s IQ at age eleven or twelve, the higher your IQ would be at age fifteen. This is because we absorb the qualities and habits of those around us. No wonder last-born children often seem wiser—they learn from the experiences of their older siblings. One of the best things you can do to grow is to join a culture or community where the qualities you desire are the norm. Surround yourself with people who embody the traits you want to develop, and you will rise together. Choose relationships where growth is the standard, where you are encouraged to become the best version of yourself.
3. Build a skill: Whatever your interest , reading, baking, communication, leadership — nurture it. Skill development is crucial for growth and future opportunities. Think about Daniel in the Bible — he was chosen to serve in the king’s palace because of the skills he had developed. That could be your story too! The skills you cultivate today can open doors you never imagined tomorrow.
4. Cultivate the habit of saving; Saving money is a habit that will help you grow into a financially secure and responsible adult. I once heard of an eleven-year-old who saved up enough to buy himself a laptop, how amazing is that. Building the habit of saving not only teaches responsibility and accountability but also helps you avoid seeking instant fixes. It fosters contentment and shields you from the temptations of trading virtue for momentary gratification.

So, take a deep breath. Trust that God has you exactly where He wants you to be. Give yourself permission to enjoy every season, to make mistakes, to laugh a little louder, and to love a little deeper and wiser. Because one day, when you look back, you’ll realize that even in the uncertainty, the struggles, and the in-between moments, life was always unfolding in the most beautiful way.

With love and faith in your journey,

Your Future Self