Dating advice you never thought you needed

No matter how many relationships you’ve had or how many first dates you’ve been on, we’ve all probably felt we needed some advice. Whether you’re single and looking for tips to make your dating profile stand out or you’re in a new relationship, join the picture: In here are tips you may have felt you never needed but are very essential to having a healthy relationship.

 

Not every relationship must lead to marriage

 

Don’t rush things, avoid putting pressure on yourself or the other person to progress too quickly. Allow the relationship to develop naturally and enjoy the journey. It is important you date intentionally but more importantly, be aware that not every relationship will lead to marriage. This is an advice I wish someone gave early on, it would have saved me so many tears. 

 

Some people are meant to bring the best out of us for the journey ahead. I am ever grateful for my first relationship, although the guy ended things with me and that hurt me so much because we were engaged. We had plans, and I believe we loved each other dearly. But we didn’t get married in the end. Each time I look back, I appreciate God for the good things I learned from him – personal growth and self-discovery. We live in a society where marriage has traditionally been viewed as the ultimate goal of a romantic relationship, it is important to recognize that not all relationships must follow this path.  

 

Practice active listening 

 

When on a date, be fully present and engaged in the conversation. Show genuine interest in the other person by actively listening and asking thoughtful questions. This helps build a deeper connection and makes the other person feel valued. Put away distractions such as phones or other electronic devices and give your undivided attention. Use verbal and non-verbal cues to communicate effectively, remember you two are getting to know each other better, and to some level, active engagement can help you figure out who you are on a date with.

 

Prioritize self-care

 

Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. When you feel good about yourself, it boosts your confidence and attractiveness. Make time for activities that bring you joy, practice self-reflection, and prioritize your well-being. 

 

There is always someone more attractive than your partner

In a healthy relationship, the connection between partners goes beyond physical appearance. Emotional compatibility, shared values, trust, understanding, and many other factors contribute to the overall attraction and bond between two people. While other people may look attractive, it’s important to focus on your partner’s unique qualities and connections. Also, you can help your partner improve on the things that makes them more attractive.

The temptation to compare your partner with any attractive person out there will arise but remember that comparing your partner’s attractiveness to someone else’s can lead to insecurity and frustration in your relationship. Instead, it’s worth appreciating and admiring your partner’s personality and the qualities that make them attractive to you.  

Communicate honestly and kindly 

Open and honest communication is key to a healthy relationship. Express your needs, desires, and concerns with kindness and respect. Encourage your partner to do the same, creating a safe space for open dialogue.

Focus on quality, not quantity 

Instead of obsessing over the number of dates you go on or the number of matches you have, focus on the quality of your interactions. It’s better to have a few genuine connections than a multitude of shallow ones.

Learn from past experiences 

Reflect on your previous dating experiences and identify patterns or lessons you can learn from them. This self-awareness can help you grow and make better choices in future relationships.

Have fun and enjoy the process 

Dating can be a rollercoaster ride of emotions but try to embrace the journey and have fun along the way. Enjoy meeting new people, trying new activities, and discovering more about yourself in the process.

Remember, dating is ultimately about finding someone who appreciates and accepts you for who you are. So, be authentic, enjoy the experience, and trust that the right person will come along when the time is right

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Thanks, guys.