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  • How to glorify God

    How to glorify God

    The topic of glorifying God is not just important, it’s foundational, especially for those who are new in their walk with Christ. To glorify God is at the very heart of our relationship with Him. It shapes how we see Him, how we respond to Him, and how we live our lives.

    First, it’s essential to understand that God is glory in Himself. He doesn’t need humanity to glorify Him in order to be glorious. He is eternally sufficient, eternally majestic, and eternally full of splendor. The act of glorifying God doesn’t add to or diminish His glory, it’s simply our natural response to the revelation of who He already is.

    God has never needed validation from man, nor does He share His glory with anyone. As Isaiah 42:8 says, “I am the Lord; that is my name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols.” He is complete and all-sufficient.

    To glorify God is to recognize, reflect, and respond to His greatness – not to improve or boost His status.

    Now, here’s a powerful truth: The only way we can truly understand or express the glory of God is when His glory lives within us—through the indwelling presence of the Holy Spirit. The Spirit of God is the One who makes known the character, majesty, and power of God to us. Without Him, we cannot comprehend the depths of God’s glory, let alone live in a way that reflects it.

    The psalmist declares in Psalm 24:7

    “Lift up your heads, O ye gates; and be lifted up, ye everlasting doors; and the King of glory shall come in. Who is this King of glory? The Lord strong and mighty, the Lord mighty in battle.”

    God is the King of Glory. It is not just a title, it’s His nature. Strength, majesty, victory, holiness, beauty – all wrapped into one divine name.

    This is the foundation of understanding God’s glory. And when this foundation is laid in our hearts, it transforms how we live, worship, serve, and speak.

    To glorify God is not something we simply wait to “feel led” to do. It is a posture of the heart and a decision of the will.

    So then, how do we glorify God;

    Love Him

    To love God, not out of obligation, not because we want something in return, but because we’ve come to know how deeply He loves us. When love becomes our natural response, it overflows from a heart that has been touched and transformed by His grace.

    So often, we approach God like He’s a vending machine for blessings, asking Him to protect us, provide for us, or guide us, doing so with a transactional mindset. We treat our prayers and worship as duties, forgetting that genuine love doesn’t flow from obligation, it flows from revelation.

    When we truly understand who God is and how much God loves us, something shifts. Our heart responds to His love not with a checklist, but with surrender. we begin to love Him back not because we’re afraid of what might happen if we don’t, but because we can’t help it.

    I remember one night, my husband and I were watching a documentary about a Kenyan couple whose marriage fell apart after they tragically lost their child. In the midst of their pain, confusion, and likely overwhelming pressure, the wife poured sulphuric acid on her husband’s face and then fled. His face was severely burned, and he lost his sight completely, his eyes closed permanently.

    That scene shook me. It wasn’t just the physical pain or the heartbreak, it reminded me of how real, how devastating hell can be. And in that moment, I found myself overwhelmed with gratitude, not fear. I thought, oh my God, thank You. You saved me not just from physical harm, but from eternal separation, from a fire that never ends. Not because I deserved it, but because of you love me.

    I didn’t respond with fear, thinking, “Oh, I better love God or I might end up like that.” No. I was moved to whisper worship, to pour out praise, because I was reminded of the depth of His love for a girl like me, broken, ordinary, and yet fully seen and chosen. That’s the power of God’s love: it draws out worship, not worry; devotion, not dread.

    There’s no clearer picture of this love than the cross. Jesus took the weight of my sin and punishment upon Himself, so we could be free. And that freedom invites us to love Him in return.

    “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
    —1 John 4:18

    Glorifying God is when you respond naturally to God’s love with love.

    Obey Him

    When we love God deeply, obeying Him becomes our natural rhythm. It’s no longer a chore, it is our joy.

    Jesus said, “If you love me, you will obey me.” (John 14:15). This isn’t just a command, it’s a love invitation. Obedience isn’t about legalism or fear of punishment. It’s about alignment. It’s how we say, “God, I trust You. I believe You know what’s best for me.”

    I still remember the first time I heard someone say, “God’s love language is obedience.” It was about six years ago, and I had just started reading The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I was fascinated by the idea that people express and receive love differently through words, acts, gifts, time, and touch. But then, this new thought hit me: God has a love language too. And it’s obedience.

    That struck me deeply. God isn’t moved just by our words of affection. He delights when our actions reflect trust and love. Not because we’re trying to impress Him, but because we believe Him.

    The Bible is filled with instructions, not to control us, but to guide us into the life He designed for us. When we truly love someone, we naturally care about what matters to them. That’s how obedience works with God. It’s not about checking off religious boxes; it’s about walking in step with the One we love.

    So love Him, and let that love lead you to obey Him. As a son or daughter who knows they are cherished.

    Conclusion
     1 Corinthians 6:20 “For you were bought with a price, so glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

  • Dear 20 something-Your life will unfold In the most beautiful way.

    Dear 20 something-Your life will unfold In the most beautiful way.

    Dear 20 something,

    Right now you may feel like life is a puzzle with missing pieces, full of uncertainties, and a million of questions about the future. You wonder if you are making the right choices, if you’ll ever feel like you’ve figured it out. but here’s the truth, Life is not about having all the answers, its about embracing the journey as it unfolds.

    I know that the media, friends, family, and influencers constantly pressure you to conform to a predetermined lifestyle. The Society also sets expectations for you before you’ve even had the chance to figure out who you truly are.

    You are expected to graduate from high school and immediately enroll in college/university, choose what to study so that you can finish within four years. Upon graduation, the expectation is to either pursue further education or land a stable job and jump straight into a career. At the same time, you should have found “the one,” be engaged, and be well on your way to marriage. Shortly after, the next steps are buying a home and starting a picture-perfect family, all within an unspoken yet rigid timeline.

    But life isn’t that simple. The pressure to follow this scripted journey is not only overwhelming but also unrealistic. Everyone’s path is different, and trying to force your life into society’s rigid expectations can lead to unnecessary stress, doubt, and even feelings of failure when things don’t go according to plan. More importantly, this timeline is not necessarily what God has intended for you.

    His plan is unique for every individual, and it doesn’t always align with societal norms. Instead of rushing to meet external expectations, Seek God’s guidance, trust His timing, and embrace the journey He has laid out for you no matter how different it may look from what the world expects.

     For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.  In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. Jeremiah 29:11-13

    You are already growing in ways you don’t even realize yet. Every challenge, every obsession, every small victory is shaping you into the person you are meant to be. Is it the setbacks? They are not signs of failure, they are stepping stones. How about the moment of doubt? They are proof you care deeply about the life you are building.

    I know you are eager to find your purpose, your place in this world. But let me remind you; Purpose is not something you stumble upon in one day. It is something you discover piece by piece from the experience you face, God’s word and the passions you explore. Sometimes, God may direct you to different route but its okay to change paths, to grow out of friendships, to evolve in ways you never expected. That’s the beauty of life, it keeps unfolding from seasons to seasons, revealing new opportunities, dreams and a better version of yourself.

    I will like to point out four secrete you should consider, they will help you finish the journey ahead strong.

    1. Consistently nurture your relationship with Jesus/the Holy spirit. Wondering why this should be your top priority? Because in Him lies the wisdom to navigate life. Jesus isn’t just an escape route from hell; He is the way, the truth, and the life. By following His ways, you walk in righteousness, experience peace beyond understanding, and embrace the promise of eternal life. There is a reason why the Bible urges us to remember our Creator in the days of our youth (Ecclesiastes12-1, because in him lies the foundation to a meaningful life and to avoid regret of wasted life. I understand that this is a season of exploration, however, not every trial-and-error decision comes with light consequences. Some choices, though made in the spirit of adventure or curiosity, can leave lasting effects on your life. That’s why the Holy Spirit and your Bible have all the wisdom you need to guide your steps. Lean onto them, and let them shape your journey.
    2. Invest in quality relationships. I recently read about a study that found that the higher your best friend’s IQ at age eleven or twelve, the higher your IQ would be at age fifteen. This is because we absorb the qualities and habits of those around us. No wonder last-born children often seem wiser—they learn from the experiences of their older siblings. One of the best things you can do to grow is to join a culture or community where the qualities you desire are the norm. Surround yourself with people who embody the traits you want to develop, and you will rise together. Choose relationships where growth is the standard, where you are encouraged to become the best version of yourself.
    3. Build a skill: Whatever your interest , reading, baking, communication, leadership — nurture it. Skill development is crucial for growth and future opportunities. Think about Daniel in the Bible — he was chosen to serve in the king’s palace because of the skills he had developed. That could be your story too! The skills you cultivate today can open doors you never imagined tomorrow.
    4. Cultivate the habit of saving; Saving money is a habit that will help you grow into a financially secure and responsible adult. I once heard of an eleven-year-old who saved up enough to buy himself a laptop, how amazing is that. Building the habit of saving not only teaches responsibility and accountability but also helps you avoid seeking instant fixes. It fosters contentment and shields you from the temptations of trading virtue for momentary gratification.

    So, take a deep breath. Trust that God has you exactly where He wants you to be. Give yourself permission to enjoy every season, to make mistakes, to laugh a little louder, and to love a little deeper and wiser. Because one day, when you look back, you’ll realize that even in the uncertainty, the struggles, and the in-between moments, life was always unfolding in the most beautiful way.

    With love and faith in your journey,

    Your Future Self

  • The Ultimate Purpose of every Christian

    The Ultimate Purpose of every Christian

    Each morning, as the sun rises, we wake up to a new day, another opportunity granted by God. For some, it’s a chance to continue their search for the true purpose of their existence. For others, it’s an opportunity to right past wrongs. Whatever you believe about why God has given you this day, it should never distract you from His ultimate purpose for your life.

    Many young ladies have asked me how they can discover their purpose. Interestingly, when they asked, I was also on my journey to understanding why I was created. My response has always been the same: Go back to God. I firmly believe that God has a specific mission for each of us. However, from both personal revelation and Scripture, I have come to understand two core purposes that apply to every believer.

    If you’ve been searching for meaning, wondering what your purpose in life is, I believe this is it.

    1. To Know God

    God’s first and foremost desire is for us to know Him deeply and personally. Just as He knows us intimately, He wants us to experience a close relationship with Him. Imagine spending your entire life growing in the knowledge of God, it sounds weird right, but in reality, it is the most fulfilling pursuit.

    I have been married for two years now, and I continue to learn new things about my spouse. How about my family, my siblings. I have known them for thirty years and when ever we are together I can’t get enough of them.

    If human relationships require an ongoing discovery, how much more should our relationship with God? And the best way to know Him is through His Word.

    Each time God reveals a new aspect of Himself to me, I find myself in awe, overwhelmed by His greatness. With excitement and wonder, I can’t help but exclaim, “God! Who are You?” as if encountering Him for the first time all over again.

    His depth is infinite, and just when I think I understand Him, He unveils yet another facet of His glory, leaving me speechless and longing to know Him even more.

    One way I measure the worth of any pursuit is by its eternal value. Many chase after wealth, success, and recognition, but when weighed against eternity, they amount to nothing. However:

    • Money + eternity = no value
    • Knowing God + eternity = eternal value

    Knowing God is not just our purpose on earth, it is also our eternal purpose. In heaven, we will continue to know Him. .John 17:3 says:

    “And this is eternal life: that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.”

    This is why Paul declared that his greatest desire was:

    That I may know Him [experientially, becoming more thoroughly acquainted with Him, understanding the remarkable wonders of His Person more completely] and [in that same way experience] the power of His resurrection [which overflows and is active in believers], and [that I may share] the fellowship of His sufferings, by being continually conformed [inwardly into His likeness even] to His death [dying as He did];

    So, what about you? What do you truly desire in life?

    2. To Make Him Known

    Our second assignment is to make God known. The difference lies in how we fulfill this mission. We are called to be priests and ambassadors of His kingdom:

    “You have made them a kingdom and priests to our God, and they will reign on the earth.” (Revelation 5:10)

    When Jesus taught us to pray, “Your kingdom come, Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven,” He was showing us that we are meant to bring heaven’s culture to earth. We are to rule and influence the world the way God rules in heaven.

    Lately, the Holy Spirit has been using this truth to challenge me. Whenever I’m tempted to complain or grumble, He asks, “Is this how God rules heaven?” That simple question has helped me reflect on my attitude and my role as His representative.

    However, this second assignment cannot be fulfilled without the first. You cannot effectively make God known if you do not first know Him. Without knowing Him, you won’t know what to do, where to go, or how to represent Him.

    Many people tirelessly strive to do things for the Lord, serving, working, and pursuing ministry then miss the most crucial assignment. Before anything else, our first calling is to know Him intimately. Only then can we effectively make Him known to others. True purpose isn’t just found in working for God but in walking closely with Him.


    Your Purpose is Clear

    If you’ve been searching for your purpose, let this be your answer: It is not found in random pursuits, but in these two divine assignments—to know God and to make Him known.

    Everything else flows from these.

    So, are you living out your purpose today?

  • How to figure what to do with your life

    How to figure what to do with your life

    One of the most common questions young ladies ask me is: How do I know what to do with my life? or I don’t know what to do with my life.

    I can easily relate to this because I’ve been there myself. There was a time in my life when I was juggling so many things, yet nothing seemed to add up. I constantly felt that there was something more—something beyond what I was doing at that moment. Figuring out my path in life became a question I had to confront.

    I had multiple talents and knew I had the capacity to excel in different areas. I could sing—I was even part of my church’s worship team. I could write and review books. I could act, and I was also involved in the church drama group. Despite all these abilities, I still felt uncertain about my direction.

    A month ago, I hosted three young girls in my home for discipleship. We started with a simple conversation about life, and I asked them, Who do you want to be in the future?

    Their response surprised me. They hesitated, even seemed afraid to answer. When I asked why, they said that life in Nigeria had made them realize it’s not about who they want to be but rather about what they need to do to survive.

    I then shared a story with them about a video I once watched. In the video, a woman was asked what she wanted to do with her life. She replied, I don’t know, but I know I want to own a company with many secretaries.

    And today, that is exactly who she is—a successful business owner. That story encouraged them, and it reinforces an important lesson: The focus should not just be on what you want to do, but on who you want to become.

    Focusing only on what to do in life can feel restrictive, limiting you to a single path. For instance, if you have a good voice, that talent isn’t just for singing—you could use it for voice-over work, audiobooks, presenting, and so much more. A particular gift can be expressed in different ways.

    But when you focus on who you want to become, you develop a broader vision—one that helps guide your choices and shape your path.

    With that in mind, I want to share some of the things I did that helped me figure out what I wanted to do with my life.

    1. Information
      The first and most essential tool for discovering who you want to be and what you want to do in life is information—specifically, information about yourself.

    To gain clarity, you need to ask questions. Start by seeking insights from the people around you. Ask them about your strengths and weaknesses. However, beyond external perspectives, the most crucial questions should come from within. No one knows you—your experiences, struggles, and story—better than you do.

    No matter how old you are, you’ve lived through unique experiences that have shaped you. Consider your upbringing, your challenges, your privileges. Outline these moments and use them to connect the dots of your journey.

    Don’t be afraid to dig deep. Self-discovery requires courage, even when it leads to difficult truths. Perhaps you were molested as a child, or maybe you were raised with confidence and support. Maybe you had financial struggles but carried the privilege of beauty or intelligence. Everything you’ve been through holds meaning.

    Ask yourself thought-provoking questions:

    • Why do people listen when I talk?
    • Why do I struggle with anxiety?
    • Why am I so confident?
    • What life experiences have shaped my fears, strengths, and dreams?

    These are the types of reflections that helped me. There was a time in my life when I felt like I had wasted years on things that didn’t matter. I often thought, I should have started blogging years ago. But I later realized that what held me back wasn’t time—it was a lack of information. If I had known then what I know now, I would have made different choices.

    Instead of dwelling on regret, I shifted my focus to seeking knowledge, and that pursuit led me to where I am today.

    So, be curious about your story. Ask yourself questions, and never stop asking—because clarity brings freedom. And don’t stop at asking yourself; ask God as well. Through prayer, seek His guidance so that your steps and decisions align with His purpose for your life.

    1. Inspiration
      Inspiration is a powerful force. Sometimes, you may not know who you want to be or what you want to do until you see someone embodying it—and suddenly, something clicks. Inspiration acts as a kickstarter, pushing you to recognize possibilities within yourself that you may never have considered.

    Years ago, I experienced this firsthand. Every time I read great books, I would sometimes lose track of what I was reading—not because I wasn’t paying attention, but because my mind would be racing with thoughts like, Wow… this is who I want to be. This is what I want to do. I wanted my writing to have the same impact. I wanted people to read my content and feel encouraged, inspired, and empowered. That realization shaped my journey.

    Have you ever had a moment like that?

    I remember a particular day when Dr. Ferdinand Nweke, out of the blue, said to me, Patience, you hardly talk, but when you do, you say important things. His words meant so much to me. It was a reassurance that I was on the right path.

    At the time, I wasn’t even fully into blogging. I would occasionally post random thoughts on Facebook, but I hadn’t yet taken the time to deeply understand myself or my purpose. Then, I saw someone doing what I admired, and it stirred something in my heart—this is what I want to do.

    That’s what inspiration means to me. The more I read people’s stories, watch documentaries, and listen to podcasts, the more I become aware of who I want to be.

    Maybe a traditional 9-to-5 job isn’t for you. But by exposing yourself to different perspectives, ideas, and possibilities, you might just discover something that ignites a passion within you. Inspiration can be the spark that sets you on the path to your true calling.

    1. implementation
      This is about more than just taking actions, it’s about intentional action. It’s not enough to stay busy in life; it matters when you consciously engage in activities that bring meaning and direction to your life.

    Think of it as a trial-and-error experiment—one where you actively extract lessons from each experience, identify patterns, and connect the dots as you move forward.

    For example, you may have studied engineering in university but later found yourself learning a trade like tailoring just to survive. At first, this may seem unrelated to your original path, but in reality, there are valuable lessons hidden in every experience. Often, we subconsciously learn from that environment that we don’t immediately recognize.

    That’s why it’s important to be intentional about drawing lessons from everyday experiences. These lessons could hold the key to future opportunities.

    Keep your heart open to the feedback life gives you in different seasons. There is always a connection. Clarity doesn’t come from overthinking—it comes from doing.

    These are some of the essential tools that have helped me gain clarity on who I want to be and what I want to do.

    If you have any questions, feel free to leave them in the comments below, and I’ll be happy to shed more light on them.

    Thank you, and God bless you!

  • Tech for Good: How Christian Women use Technology to Serve Others

    Tech for Good: How Christian Women use Technology to Serve Others

    In a world increasingly shaped by technology, Christian women are finding inspiring ways to use modern tech tools to serve others and spread their faith. With phones, laptops, and social platforms at their fingertips, they are turning everyday apps and software into lifelines for ministry, connection, and community. These women are innovating and leading with purpose, blending traditional values with digital resources to reach more people than ever before.

    The Role of Technology in Modern Christian Ministry

    Technology has revolutionized how ministry operates, much like the printing press did centuries ago. Where handwritten letters once carried messages of faith across oceans, today’s Christian women use emails, video calls, and online platforms to share the Good News. The essence remains the same: connecting hearts and spreading hope. But now, the scope is limitless. From small towns to bustling cities, technology helps bridge gaps that geography and time used to create.

    Reaching Broader Audiences with Social Media

    Social media has become a powerful platform for faith-driven outreach. Christian women, in particular, are using their Instagram feeds, TikToks, YouTube channels, and Facebook groups to share daily devotions, church announcements, and personal testimonies. Why? Because that’s where people are—especially younger generations.

    These platforms allow women to have conversations about their faith in ways that resonate. For example, a short, heartfelt post about a personal prayer answered can inspire thousands. A YouTube video explaining a Bible verse connects to an audience seeking guidance. This kind of outreach isn’t just digital; it’s deeply personal.

    Creating and Supporting Online Communities

    Virtual prayer groups and Bible studies have surged in popularity. Many women use apps like Zoom or platforms like WhatsApp to create spaces for fellowship and encouragement. These groups build strong bonds across cities, states, or even countries. Women share prayer requests, dive into scripture, and lean on one another—all without leaving their homes.

    Message boards, online courses, and even social media DMs extend an open hand to both believers and seekers. For those who can’t attend events in person due to health, location, or financial reasons, technology means inclusion.

    Visual Storytelling Through Technology

    If a picture is worth a thousand words, Christian women are creating masterpieces. They use tools like Canva, Instagram Stories, and even video-editing apps to spread meaningful messages. A simple graphic with a verse or prayer shared on Instagram can uplift someone scrolling during a stressful moment.

    Videos also play a major role. From recording church services for YouTube to creating short clips with encouraging messages, women tap into the power of storytelling. These visual tools break through the noise of the internet and draw attention to God’s love in creative ways.

    Empowering Women Through Technological Skills

    Learning to use technology isn’t just about social media or apps—it’s also about taking on leadership roles. Many Christian women are stepping up their technical skills to manage church operations, run creative projects, or organize events. This gives them opportunities to serve in ways that challenge traditional norms.

    Breaking Stereotypes in the Church Setting

    Women in technology roles within churches are challenging outdated stereotypes. In many congregations, women now manage sound systems, design presentations, and oversee tech on Sunday mornings. Once considered male-dominated, these roles are showing how women bring new energy and unique perspectives to the table.

    By taking active parts in tech-based ministries, these women prove that serving God has no limits—whether on stage, behind a microphone, or running the livestream.

    Hosting Events with Technology

    Events like online worship nights, virtual conferences, and digital prayer chains are made possible by technology. Apps like Eventbrite organize attendance, while Zoom brings participants into shared spaces. This approach allows women to host retreats, seminars, and small groups that might otherwise be out of reach for many.

    Whether it’s a virtual women’s conference or a live-streamed worship session, these events create meaningful experiences for believers. They also provide access to those who may be seeking faith but are hesitant to attend an in-person event.

    Challenges of Integrating Technology into Faith Practice

    While technology opens doors, it can also create challenges. Christian women navigating this digital path must remain mindful of the distractions and traps that come with it.

    Balancing Online and Real-life Ministry

    The glowing screen can’t replace personal connection. Technology is a tool—not the mission itself. Maintaining balance between online efforts and face-to-face relationships is essential. For instance, while an Instagram post might inspire, it’s the coffee meet-up that deepens trust and fellowship.

    Navigating Social Media with Love and Integrity

    Social platforms can sometimes spark negativity or division. Christian women must approach these spaces with grace, staying true to their values. Simple choices—such as responding kindly to criticism, avoiding arguments, and creating encouraging content—help shape a loving online presence.

    Guarding Against Digital Burnout

    Managing tech-related ministry can lead to burnout if boundaries aren’t in place. Setting screen time limits, delegating tasks, and taking regular breaks are practical ways to ensure technology serves, rather than consumes, the person using it. There’s wisdom in stepping away to recharge in God’s presence without the buzz of notifications.

    Conclusion

    Technology has become an incredible tool for Christian women serving others. Whether creating inspiring Instagram posts or leading Zoom prayer groups, they prove that faith can flourish in a digital space. However, using technology responsibly and mindfully is key to its success.

    In every post shared, video uploaded, or online event hosted, these women show how innovation and faith can work hand in hand. It’s a reminder that as long as the heart is in the right place, the tools are just that—tools—to bring light into the world.

    What role can technology play in your own ministry, community, or life? It’s a question worth exploring as we use these tools not for personal gain, but to reflect God’s love in everything we do.

  • How to genuinely bless someone who is spitting on you.

    How to genuinely bless someone who is spitting on you.

    It’s never easy to bless someone who has wronged you—let alone someone who openly disrespects, falsely accuses, or even hates you.

    In this context, “spitting” doesn’t just mean literally being spit on; it represents the actions of those who treat you with contempt, revile you, or act maliciously toward you.

    So, how do you respond when faced with such situations?

    For a long time, I struggled with speaking negatively whenever I was upset. Even if I didn’t say it out loud, my thoughts were often filled with harsh words.

    But the truth is, whether spoken or unspoken, negativity in our hearts makes us no different from those who act unjustly toward us.

    As followers of Jesus, this should not be our response. Romans 12:14 reminds us to:

    “Bless those who hurt you. Bless them, and do not call down curses on them.”

    The New Century Version puts it this way:
    “Wish good for those who harm you; wish them well and do not curse them.”

    God’s Word humbles us, challenges our egos and direct us to the right path. Doing the right thing may not be easy, but it is possible.

    How Can You Genuinely Bless Someone Who Has Wronged You?

    Give Them the Benefit of the Doubt

    Jesus demonstrated this even as He suffered on the cross. Consider what He endured:
    “They struck Him on the head with a reed stick, spit on Him, and dropped to their knees in mock worship. When they were finally tired of mocking Him, they took off the purple robe and put His own clothes on Him again. Then they led Him away to be crucified.” (Mark 15:19-20, NLT)

    Despite this, Jesus still prayed:
    “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34, NLT)

    But did they truly not know? Of course, they knew what they were doing. Yet, Jesus chose to extend grace by giving them the benefit of the doubt. He found a way to excuse their actions.

    This principle has helped me a lot. When someone wrongs me, I try to understand their perspective—maybe they were acting out of stress, personal struggles, or emotional baggage. I ask myself, If I were in their position, would I have acted differently?

    Finding even a small reason to empathize makes it easier to genuinely bless them, rather than just saying the words without meaning them.

    Refuse to Speak Ill of Them

    Anger and frustration often tempt us to respond with curses instead of blessings. But think about it—despite all the ways we have hurt God, He still chooses to bless us rather than curse us.

    Luke 6:27-28 instructs us:
    “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.”

    True obedience means resisting the urge to retaliate with negative words and instead choosing to bless, even when it feels undeserved.

    Continue to Be Salt and Light

    Salt enhances flavor, and as believers, we should live in a way that makes God’s commands appealing. While some may distort the teachings of Jesus, our obedience should draw others toward Him.

    Similarly, we are called to be light:
    “Let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.” (Matthew 5:16, NLT)
    When people expect us to retaliate, we can instead respond with grace and kindness. This is how we shine the light of Christ in a dark world—by blessing when others expect curses.

    Final Thoughts
    Blessing those who mistreat us isn’t easy, but it is the way of Christ. His Word calls us to rise above offense and reflect His love. The more we practice this, the more we align with God’s heart.
    So, when faced with the challenge of blessing someone who has wronged you, will you choose your feelings or choose obedience?

  • 13 Dangerous Mistakes to avoid in leadership and ministry

    13 Dangerous Mistakes to avoid in leadership and ministry

    Great leaders and ministers of the gospel can make a lasting impact—but only if they learn from the dangerous mistakes of those who came before them. Throughout Scripture, we see examples of leaders who stumbled due to poor choices, wrong perspectives, or misguided actions. By understanding their mistakes and the consequences that followed, today’s leaders can avoid the same pitfalls. This not only helps them stay on the right path but also allows them to complete their ministry with joy and fulfill their calling.

    “But none of these things move me; nor do I count my life dear to myself, so that I may finish my race with joy, and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God.” Acts 20:24.

    Dangerous Mistakes

    Allowing the word to get to your mouth without first working in your heart.

    When the Word comes out of your mouth without first taking root in your heart, it becomes empty words rather than a lived reality. This was Balaam’s tragic mistake—what Apostle Peter called “the madness of the prophet” (2 Peter 2:15-16). Balaam was given one of the most profound prophecies about Christ, yet he never truly understood the One he spoke of. Though he started well, his desires led him astray.

    This is a dangerous path—teaching and edifying others while spiritually decaying inside. True ministry requires that the Word first transforms us before we share it with others.

    Ministering with no attention to rules.

    Good intentions are not enough when it comes to serving God—obedience to His instructions is essential. King David learned this the hard way when he attempted to move the Ark of the Covenant without following God’s prescribed order (1 Chronicles 13; 15:11-15). His mistake, though well-intended, led to unnecessary consequences.

    The apostle Paul also emphasized the importance of discipline and adherence to divine principles in ministry. He compared the Christian life to a race, where only those who follow the rules receive the prize (1 Corinthians 9:24-27). In his charge to Timothy, Paul reinforced the need for order and faithfulness in fulfilling God’s call (1 Timothy 2:4-7).

    Ministry is not just about passion—it requires obedience, discipline, and alignment with God’s ways. When we serve with both zeal and wisdom, we bring glory to God and avoid costly missteps.

    Using wrong standard of measurement to access yourself, your ministry and others

    How we measure success in ministry matters. One of the greatest mistakes we can make is using the wrong standard—especially material possessions—to assess our spiritual health, effectiveness, or the worth of others. The church in Laodicea fell into this trap, believing their wealth was a sign of spiritual strength, yet Jesus rebuked them as wretched, blind, and naked (Revelation 3:14-19).

    True spiritual maturity isn’t defined by external success but by alignment with God’s will, faithfulness in His calling, and a heart that remains humble before Him. And the truth is faithfulness does not always produce the result most people might expect.

    When we measure ourselves by God’s standard rather than worldly benchmarks, we avoid deception and walk in true kingdom purpose.

    Calling yourself something God does not call you

    It is so common that people self-appoint titles to themselves like apostle, bishop, pastor etc, just like in Revelation 2:20, Jezebel called herself a prophetess, but her actions proved otherwise—leading others into deception and sin. Similarly, in Revelation 3:9, certain Jews claimed to be God’s people, yet Jesus identified them as belonging to the synagogue of Satan.

    Titles and self-proclaimed identities do not determine our spiritual standing—God does. True authority in ministry comes from His calling, not from what we declare ourselves to be. Instead of chasing titles, we must pursue obedience, humility, and alignment with His truth.

    Breaking what God gave you because of what people do to you

    One of the greatest tests in leadership is handling people’s actions without letting them derail your obedience to God.

    Moses, a man chosen by God, struggled with this. In frustration over Israel’s rebellion, he smashed the tablets of God’s law (Exodus 31:18; 32:15-19).

    There are great differences in source, nature, composition and power between these first tablets of Ten Commandment which Moses smashed and the replaced version: The first were God’s work and the the second was Moses’ (Exodus 34:1-4)

    Later, that same frustration led him to strike the rock instead of speaking to it as God commanded—costing his entry into the Promised Land (Numbers 20:7-12).

    When we allow people’s actions to dictate our responses, we risk breaking what God entrusted to us. No matter how difficult leadership gets, we must stay anchored in obedience, responding to challenges with wisdom and patience rather than emotion.

    Tending Others’ Vineyards While Neglecting Your Own

    Ministers of the gospel often pour themselves into the lives of others—teaching, counseling, and nurturing spiritual growth. Yet, there is a hidden danger in this: neglecting their own spiritual well-being. In Song of Solomon 1:6, the speaker laments, “They made me the keeper of the vineyards, but my own vineyard I have not kept.”

    It is possible to be so consumed with serving others that your personal walk with God suffers. A thriving ministry must flow from a healthy relationship with Christ. If your own vineyard is overgrown with weeds, what fruit will you have to offer? True effectiveness comes not just from laboring for others, but from abiding in Him and tending to your own spiritual life first.

    Meddling with what God has not assigned to You

    Not every role is ours to fill, and stepping outside of God’s ordained boundaries can lead to disastrous consequences. King Uzziah learned this the hard way when he arrogantly took it upon himself to burn incense on the altar—a duty reserved for priests. His disobedience led to instant leprosy, tarnishing his once-great legacy (2 Chronicles 26:16-21).

    No matter how gifted or successful we are, we must remain within the assignments God has given us. Meddling in what does not concern us can bring unnecessary troubles and even cut short what could have been a lasting impact.

    Eating without checking, receiving without investigating, deciding without asking God.

    Not everything that looks good is from God, and failing to seek His guidance can lead to serious consequences. Joshua learned this when he made a treaty with the Gibeonites without consulting the Lord (Joshua 9:1-18, especially verses 14-18). What seemed like a harmless decision nearly led Israel into rebellion against God’s command.

    Similarly, 1 Timothy 5:22 warns against hastily approving or endorsing others, cautioning that doing so can make us sharers in their sins. Whether it’s accepting people, making alliances, or taking action, we must pause, pray, and seek God’s direction. Failing to do so can entangle us in unnecessary burdens and long-term regrets.

    Equating visibility with influence, size with significance and noise with power

    The world now equates visibility with influence, size with significance, and noise with power, but God is reminding us that strength comes from Him.

    Goliath stood tall, heavily armored, and intimidating (1 Samuel 17:4-7), while David appeared insignificant in comparison. Yet, David’s victory came not from outward might but from his trust in God. He rejected Saul’s oversized armor and relied instead on what God had given him—a sling and five smooth stones (1 Samuel 17:38-40).

    Impact isn’t about how big, loud, or visible something is. Power lies in alignment with God. A life rooted in faith and obedience will always accomplish more than mere external strength or showmanship.

    Dodging responsibilities and shifting blames

    From the very beginning, humanity has struggled with taking responsibility. When Adam sinned, instead of owning up to his mistake, he blamed Eve—and indirectly, God (Genesis 3:9-13). This failure to accept accountability only deepened the consequences of his actions.

    Blame-shifting may seem like an easy way out, but it only delays growth and resolution. Maturity require owning our mistakes, learning from them, and making things right. Avoiding responsibility weakens character, but humility and accountability open the door for God’s grace and restoration.

    Relying on past strategy without seeking God

    What worked before won’t always work again. Abimelech learned this lesson when he assumed that the battle of Thebez would be just like his victory at Shechem. He used the same approach, but this time, a simple woman’s millstone ended his life (Judges 9:42-54).

    God’s direction is fresh for every situation, and assuming that the same strategy will always guarantee success can lead to failure. Neglecting to keep strategy dynamic and to seek God for fresh direction in each case can be costly.

    Forgetting the enemy’s counter attacks and ambush

    Victory can make us careless if we’re not watchful. The people of Ai hastily pursued Israel, leaving their city exposed. What seemed like an easy win turned into their downfall as Joshua’s hidden forces ambushed and destroyed them (Joshua 8:1-7, 14-19).

    In spiritual battles, the enemy often waits for a moment of overconfidence to strike back. That’s why vigilance, prayer, and continual dependence on God are important.

    Past victories should not lead to complacency but to greater wisdom and preparedness for what’s ahead.

    Assuming starting the race equals finishing it

    In the race of life and ministry, beginning well is important, but it’s finishing well that truly counts. Paul understood this and likened the Christian journey to a race, emphasizing the need for discipline, focus, and endurance to win the prize which lies ahead (1 Corinthians 9:24-27).

    Many start with zeal but lose their way due to distractions, complacency, or lack of perseverance. Success in God’s kingdom isn’t just about a good start—it’s about staying the course, overcoming challenges, and remaining faithful to the end.

    Running with purpose and self-control ensures that we don’t just start the race, but finish it victoriously.

    Conclusion

    Conclusion
    Wise leaders understand that mistakes are not just lessons for those who make them but also warnings for those who follow.

    Proverbs 9:12 (AMP) reminds us, “If you are wise, you are wise for yourself [for your own benefit]; if you scoff [thoughtlessly reject wisdom], you alone will pay the penalty.”

    Ignoring the failures of those who came before us only sets us up to repeat them—often with even greater consequences that might even endanger our eternal welfare.

    I pray the Lord help us learn from these dangerous mistakes. Amen!

    What mistakes have you made in your leadership and ministry experience? What lesson have you learnt from them. Do share with us in the comment section below.

  • Unforgettable Life Lessons from Rahab in the Bible”

    Unforgettable Life Lessons from Rahab in the Bible”

    The story of Rahab is so uniquely formidable. Few would believe that a holy God could use a prostitute like her to help redeem His covenant people.

    But this changed the dynamics, because no man can predict the ways of our God nor can any man understand His thoughts.

    This is so humbling. Knowing that God isn’t move by how dirty we are or by how other people see us. He is more fervid about how we can get clean and be used by Him.

    Who is Rehab?

    Rahab’s story is found in Joshua 2 and Joshua 6 in the Bible. She was a Canaanite prostitute in Jericho who played a crucial role in Israel’s conquest of the city.

    When Joshua sent two Israelite spies to scout the land of Jericho, Rahab hid them on her roof to protect them from the king’s men.

    When the king’s men asked Rahab about the Israelite spies, she boldly claimed they had left before the gates closed.

    Rehab showed her faith in the God of Israel, acknowledging His power and seeking her family’s protection.

    Rahab showed faith in Israel’s God, acknowledging His power and seeking her family’s protection.

    The spies agreed and instructed Rahab to tie a scarlet cord in her window as a sign to protect her household.

    And when the Israelites conquered Jericho, Rahab’s faith and obedience ensured her family’s survival.

    Key Takeaways from Rahab’s Story

    To see myself and others the way God sees us:

    God doesn’t define us by our past, but by our faith and willingness to follow Him. Despite her background, Rahab became a part of God’s redemptive plan, even making it into the genealogy of Jesus (Matthew 1:5).

    This reminds us to see both ourselves and others through God’s eyes—with compassion, love, grace, and the potential for transformation.

    In Isaiah 55-8 we see that God’s perspective is far greater than ours. While we may see limitations, failures, or mistakes, God sees potential, redemption, and His greater plan at work.

    Not to judge others by their past or present

    Think about someone in your life who has made mistakes—maybe a family member, friend, or even yourself. Instead of holding onto judgment, what if you chose to extend grace, encouragement, and hope?

    You may be busy condemning someone based on their past or current actions, assuming they are beyond redemption.

    However, while you focused on their flaws, God may already be transforming their heart.

    Transforming them from the inside out.

    Instead of rushing to condemn, we should ask ourselves:
    Am I seeing this person the way God does?
    What if God is already changing their heart, even if I can’t see it yet?

    Let’s choose to extend grace, patience, and encouragement, trusting that God is always working behind the scenes, even in the lives of those we least expect.

    To boldly follow God’s cause.

    When the king sent word to Rahab, she boldly admitted the spies had come but insisted they left before the city gates were closed.

    Imagine the courage it took to respond this way!

    She wasn’t afraid that perhaps the plan of God may not work and the king who is the lord of Jericho will kill her.

    But to Rahab, even if it meant risking her own life her faith and conviction were stronger than her fear.

    Her bravery saved her but her family and secured her place in biblical history.

    Like Rahab, we will be faced with choices, will we stand for God even when it’s uncomfortable or risky?

    True faith requires bold action, trusting that God will honor our obedience just as He did with Rahab.

    Share with us any unforgettable lesson Rehab’s story has thought you.

    Shalom!

  • Faithful Hands, Wandering Heart: Return to Your First Love

    Faithful Hands, Wandering Heart: Return to Your First Love

    It’s very possible to be busy for God yet distant from Him. In Revelation 2:2-4, Jesus commend the church in Ephesus for their faithful hard work, perseverance, and commitment to sound doctrine.

    They were diligent in their service, standing firm against false teachings, and enduring trials for His name.

    Yet, despite their devotion in action, Jesus had one thing against them: they had abandoned their first love.

    In my previous post, I shared how love is best expressed through actions, not just words, based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 . It seems that, as humans, we tend to value love more when it is demonstrated rather than just felt in the heart. Perhaps this is because we can only see outward actions, while the true condition of the heart remains hidden..

    When it comes to Love for God the passion on the inside is actually important. Jesus gave us an expo in Matthew 22:37 And He said, love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind.

    What does it even mean to love the Lord this way?

    With All Your Heart ❤️
    The heart represents our emotions, desires, and affections. Loving God with all our heart means He is our first love, our greatest treasure, and the source of our deepest joy. It involves sincerity, devotion, and an emotional connection to God.

    With All Your Soul 🕊️
    The soul refers to our inner being, our identity, and our spiritual life. Loving God with all our soul means surrendering our will to Him and finding our purpose in Him. It requires faithfulness, perseverance, and a deep commitment that withstands trials.

    With All Your Mind 🧠
    The mind represents our intellect, thoughts, and understanding. Loving God with all our mind means seeking to know Him through His Word, meditating on His truth, and aligning our thinking with His truth. It involves studying Scripture, applying wisdom, and rejecting lies or distractions that pull us away from Him.

    In Practical Terms:

    • Prioritizing God above all else. God does not want to share us with anyone or anything outside His will for us.
    • Aligning our desires, decisions, and actions with His will.
    • Trusting and worshiping Him with our emotions, identity, and intellect.

    You may be doing God’s work—hating evil, fighting for justice, and testing the works of others, proving them guilty when necessary. Yet, in the midst of all this, there’s a disconnect in your personal relationship with Him. You no longer prioritize spending time with Him.

    I remember the first time I fell in love with Jesus. My heart was completely His. I constantly thought about what it would be like to finally meet Him face to face. I eagerly looked forward to that moment. Every thought, every plan revolved around Him. I longed to bring Him joy and was careful not to displease or disappoint Him. It was all about us—no one else.

    Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed thinking only about others—how to make them follow Him, how their behavior offends Him, or how you can’t tolerate certain attitudes. Yes, those things matter, but your relationship with God must come first. Every day, before anything else, make it about you, and Jesus.

    I pray this stirs something in your heart, just as it did in mine, so you can return to your first love—Jesus Christ—and love Him as He deserves.

    Shalom!